My Resolution

At this age, it is common to consider the idea of relationships - both friendships and romantic interests - more seriously than perhaps one has done in the past. I have done so myself of late. The main idea I have come to realize with certainty is that I do not want to be the kind of the girl that sits and waits for someone else before she can start living her life. I do not know the future or what it holds for me, so rather than wait for someone else and become indolent, needy, and useless in the process, I am going to live my life. My philosophy in regards to men has become this: If God wants me to be in a relationship or to get married eventually, that is wonderful, but I am not going to waste my time or make mistakes while trying to chase after guys. If someone is interested in me, he is going to have to take the initiative and ask me. I will be friendly, open, and encouraging, but I will not be flirty, pursuing, or desperate. It is the man's place to pursue and the one who is truly interested in me will; if not, it is his loss and I will move forward - not in an arrogant or careless manner, but merely in an independent and confident manner. I am determined to stop waiting for someone else. I am going to become who I want to be; I am going to be confident and live my life. Ideally, someone will see that someday and want to be a part of my life, but if that doesn't happen, I want to be strong enough, confident enough, and content enough to be joyful and comfortable with my life. Each person is only given one life to live and it's too short to spend waiting for someone else who you don't even know will appear. It is also too short to spend grasping at every possibility and person in the process. Be open to the possibility of someone else, but do not be dependent upon it. The point of life is not to be in a relationship; that is an aspect of life and a blessing when it is the case, but it is not a tragedy when it is not the case. The tragedy is the empty life - the life not lived. I do not want to be the type of person whose happiness and contentment depends entirely upon someone else. I need to live my life the way I know that I should and the way I desire to - head held high, shoulders erect, no looking back.