You see, I'm not one of those girls. You want honesty, well here it is...I have never dated. "Wait," you shout, "You promised this wouldn't be a sob story!" How about if I add that it was my choice to not date? Puts your frustration on pause, doesn't it? Probably replaces it with bewilderment. I mean, really, what girl in this culture actually chooses to not date. "Oh, I get it," you say. "She's one of those feminists and this is her rant against men." Wrong again. I actually have nothing against guys (except that whole pants-way-below-the-hips thing...that's just awkward). So now you're really confused. "Okay," you sigh, "give me the bottom-line". So here it goes.
First of all, let me say that I am a normal girl. I like guys. I would be lying if I said that I had never had a crush before. I even have to admit that I tend to be a romantic - one of those girls that wants her future husband to ride in on a great, white horse and swoop her off her feet. However, I am also realistic.
While watching a music video by one of the nation's present top male pop stars, something occurred to me. Certain groups are famous (perhaps even infamous) for the huge following of girls they have flocking around them. One obvious example would be the Jonas Brothers. Girls look at them (and faint if they deign to look back) and idolize them and spend hours fantasizing about what it would be like to date one of them. All of this is a well-known fact. However, while watching that music video, I wondered if we girls actually are falling for those particular boys/men as much as we are falling for the idea. Now, hang with me, hopefully this will make more sense in a minute.
All girls want to be loved and cherished for who they are. You may find someone (or even be someone) who denies it, but deep down, it's the truth. We look everywhere for someone who will grant this desire; often this leads to us looking at and fantasizing about famous stars. However, I dare to say that I think it is not so much the fame, maybe not so much even the "hot" looks that appeal to us so much as the idea of being loved. I think we would be just as satisfied with the "boy next door" as the pop star if the former was the one to love us. The "knight in shining armor" can be a little dinged up, his horse can be a little shaggy...maybe he can't even ride a horse...yet so long as he loved his lady, I think she would consider him to be more handsome, honorable, and noble than any pop star prince in the land.
I realize that I am saying this so badly. My thoughts and feelings are not flowing onto the paper...or, er, screen in this case...as well as I wish, but I just wanted to put some of these thoughts out there. In the end, I guess I just wanted to tell every non-airbrushed and un-photoshopped guy to take heart. You don't have to be perfect to be perfect for someone. Girls don't need flawless, they need love like 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8: "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends." But a discussion on the true meaning of love is whole different blog post...
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